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For starters, I have been a
parent long enough to know every parent wants only the best for their
children.
As parents, we do not want to
raise our children and set them up for failure.
It is no surprise that even an irresponsible parent desires what is the
best for her child or at least good enough.
As a mother, I know the love we
feel for an unborn child before we meet them.
The protection, attention and care we give to our unborn children proceeds
from the heart of nurture God has given us.
Behold, children are a
heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the
hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is
the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to
shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalms 127:3-5
Eventually
we get to meet our newborn and stare at their cute little faces, with love we
cleanup stinking nappies and dirty clothes.
A
Father loves his unborn child and ensures that he provides for his or her needs. You
can read more of being a loving Father Here.
The best gift a Father can give his children is to love their
Mother unconditionally and eternally.
“Sometimes we become so
consumed with our dreams for our kids that we forget that they perhaps have a
different dream for themselves.”
Their destiny is a different path, we are part of
their journey but not in charge of their destiny.
God's purpose for their lives shall prevail.
For by grace you have
been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is
the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Ephesians 2:8-9
Our mistakes
as parents often result from overprotection or trying to paint a picture perfect
home.
Here are 10
mistakes we often make:
1.
Your
child is not you.
Allow them to be themselves.
2.
Your
child can learn from your experiences but we must allow them to experience life
themselves.
3.
We
cannot protect them from everything. Even God allowed His son to go through shame,
embarrassment, humiliation, beating, being wrongfully accused. They need to go
through certain chapters of their lives to perfect their journey and gain
wisdom, knowledge and understanding.
4.
Don't bribe your way into your child's heart.
Sometimes we bribe our kids to do what is already required of them. In doing this we bring more harm to
them. This could make them expect people to reward them first for their kindness.
5.
Don’t
let your kids pay for your mistakes. Don’t constantly remind them what mistakes
you made and expect that they avoid repeating them.
6.
Don’t
compare your children to other children. Embrace diversity. We cannot all be the same. Love them for who they are. After all, they are yours.
7.
Don’t
remind or blame your children for their parent’s mistakes or failures. This is especially true for blended
families. No matter what their parents
do, children will love them regardless.
That is why the Bible says we must be like children.
In all things shewing
thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine [shewing] uncorruptness, gravity,
sincerity, Titus 2:7
8. Love is not absence of
discipline. Do
not cover up their mistakes. Teach them that mistakes are part of life and part
of growing. We learn from our mistakes and
develop character. Your
children, like you are not perfect.
You can help them on this journey but you cannot live their lives for
them. Lovingly teach them and discipline
them.
9. Do not provoke your children.
Know that what you do, say and
even how you dress will affect your children.
Speak to them in a respectable manner.
Children learn from watching and observing us as parents.
“Our lifestyle influences our children, whether positively or negatively.”
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them
up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4
10. You are not raising your children
for yourself.
You are raising them to be part of this beautiful world. God will hold you accountable one day for
your kids. He has placed them in your
care to love them unconditionally.
Even when they may side step,
they will remember the teachings of their youth. Remember the Bible says
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he
will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
No matter what, always love and pray for your
children. Never give up on them. Keep
hoping and allow your hope to give birth to faith and faith that God will never
leave nor forsake them.
They
are the future of tomorrow.
And
like an old saying says… They will
choose your old age home one day.
About the Author:
Natalie Abrahams is a Ministry Wife, an International Speaker and a Life Coach. She is the author of “Get up and Go on”. To book Natalie Abrahams and to get a copy of
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