Unfortunately, people who are close to us know when we radiate lies about ourselves.
Yes!!
It is a lie to put up an appearance.
It is pride to put up an appearance.
Not being authentic is denying who you really are.
Many depressions and loneliness are closely tied with the impossible desire of being perfect or to fit in to the ‘right crowd’.
Gal, we should not turn on each other just because we are trying to fit in the “popular group”.
What really is the issue?
‘The need to fit-in’
We lose ourselves when we desperately want to belong.
We stop being real when we put up a facade.
When our lives start revolving around appearances we drift away from reality.
It is this self serving desire that allow us crush people in our lives who love us.
This senseless craving makes us lose real connections and break hearts along our paths.
How can you be more authentic?
Understand your purpose; the woman who understands God’s place in her life doesn’t bother which group of women let her in. A woman who understands her purpose pursues fulfilment of her calling.
God has not called us
1. To be like everyone else; the world needs your light, it doesn’t need more darkness.
2. To fit in: We should give up trying to fit in because God has called you to be different.
3. To be unreal: We make our lives a lie when we abandon who God has made us to be.
God has called us for His Unique Purpose in our lives
Our uniqueness is buried in our authenticity.
You echo your purpose when you remain true to your calling. To be true is to be authentic, sincere and transparent.
Show Compassion: an authentic person is compassionate and empathic. She listens with genuine intent and seeks ways to relieve your burden.
Jesus showed compassion. He was genuine. He didn’t need to wear a long robe and sit in the courts.
An authentic person will draw more genuine people
Relate not distant: An authentic person can relate with your experiences. While she does not shield her own short comings she places herself in your shoes in order to understand what you are going through.
An authentic person is not distant in her conversations
Avoid lies: Many times you try to fit in you spun lies. Regrettably you will need more lies to keep you on the shore line. You will become more sucked in.
Get away from the lies and everything to do with it because it will cost you more than you expect.
Be honest about your feelings: Truthfully, I am learning to be more open about my feelings especially when my opinion really matters.
People in our lives deserve more than our “plastic answers”. They deserve our best authentic selves.
Let’s be more true and less plastic
Let’s be more authentic and shine in truth.
