Purposeful and Meaningful: 7 Red-flag areas your Premarital Counselor will show you

With the alarming rate of divorce, separations within the Christian faith, I wonder if there is something we are missing? Is our generation departing from Godly principles to go the way of the world? Is there anything like a peaceful home?

Many more questions like these abound in my heart and also in the heart of those who care for ‘God’s Family’.

While growing up, I have always longed for a home filled with love and peace of God. This desire made me seek God’s face early with prayers.

So important is the premarital counselling we engage in.Why do you need a marriage counselor?

You and your spouse are separate entities with different backgrounds and home training, different taste of life and at different spiritual maturity. You need a spiritually matured counselor to guide you through the overwhelming experience of getting married and more importantly, staying married.

A counselor can open your eyes to potential red flags just before you say I do. These red-flags are:

1. Freedom from past hurtful relationships. We all carry baggage from our past. It is a time to revisit key issues that could potentially disorganize your home. Past fears and failures may pose a hindrance to a peaceful home.

2. Parental issues. For the most part, your parents’ lives influence your view on marriage. Are you from a broken home? You have to believe that God can make your new home different as you prayerfully work it out.

3. Secret sins. Pornography is a secret sin both or one of the intended spouses may be guilty of. Alarming but true, porn addiction is demonic and freedom can be achieved by breaking the hold through prayers, fasting and the Word of God. Dealing with these issues before marriage is advisable.
Also included is, avoiding premarital sex (fornication). Your counselor will expose the dangers of defiling your bed just before you say "I DO".

4. Unrealistic marital expectations. Despite your desire to marry a good man, make sure your criteria is based on God’s words and not on your selfish desires. Disappointment, bitterness and an unfulfilled life may arise when we feel our spouses are falling short of our expectations.

5. Parental consent. Like Abraham, many parents have desires about their kids. The reasons behind parental disagreements should be resolved and accompanied by prayers too.

6. History of Abuse. Family history of abuse and violence are silent warnings. A believer can only prayerfully break these family histories that could resurface in their own homes.

7. Maturity. Marriage is not meant for boys and girls but for men and women willing and ready to commit their all into each other’s lives.

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